{"id":272,"date":"2017-07-06T17:51:10","date_gmt":"2017-07-06T17:51:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/deeperricherfuller.wordpress.com\/?p=272"},"modified":"2017-07-06T17:51:10","modified_gmt":"2017-07-06T17:51:10","slug":"desire-part-3-the-wisdom-of-inigo-montoya","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/deeperricherfuller.com\/?p=272","title":{"rendered":"DESIRE Part 3: The Wisdom of Inigo Montoya"},"content":{"rendered":"

Inigo Montoya: (speaking with inebriated slur) \u00a0I am waiting for you, Vizzini. You told me to go back to the beginning. So I have. This is where I am, and this is where I\u2019ll stay. I will not be moved. \u00a0<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Brute: But the Prince gave orders \u2014<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Inigo: \u2014 So did Vizzini \u2014 when a job went wrong, you went back to the beginning. And this is where we got the job. So it\u2019s the beginning, and I\u2019m staying till Vizzini comes.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

The Princess Bride<\/span>\u00a0\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you have not seen the movie The Princess Bride you have missed out on one of life’s great delights. \u00a0I am very sad for you. \u00a0Very sad. \u00a0Also, if you haven’t read the first two posts on “Desire” this blog may not make much sense to you. \u00a0Please, go back to the beginning.<\/span><\/p>\n

Whenever I get stuck with a client and am unsure of where to go next, I hear God remind me, “Go back to the beginning.” \u00a0I know what He means. \u00a0The beginning is desire, which comes up out of the depths of our hearts. \u00a0What we do with our desires has a huge impact on our lives. \u00a0And at the risk of over-simplifying the complex individuality of every person, I’d like to suggest three directions we tend to head with our desires:<\/span><\/p>\n

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  1. \u00a0We pursue the fulfillment of our desires as we understand them.<\/span><\/li>\n
  2. \u00a0We shut down or disconnect from our desires so we won’t feel them and be \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 disappointed.<\/span><\/li>\n
  3. \u00a0We entrust our desires to God with a confidence that He cares for us.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    At the core of every problem and difficulty that people have brought to my office I find legitimate desires and longings. \u00a0Disaster happens when we take the desires that God created us with and try on our own to fulfill them or shut them up. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

    I’m not sure when it started, but by college it was solidified as way of life within me: \u00a0I felt acceptable, and thus lovable, \u00a0when I accomplished things. \u00a0When I got good grades, when I completed my list of things to do, when I fulfilled my responsibilities, I felt good about myself. \u00a0When those things didn’t happen I felt shame. \u00a0I felt unacceptable and therefore, unlovable. \u00a0Such was the vicious cycle I lived, one day feeling great but the next horrible. \u00a0God used a car accident and daily pain to disrupt my strategy for feeling ok and take away my ability to get much accomplished at all. \u00a0I was in so much pain and spent so much time going to doctors that I had to take a semester off from school. \u00a0That felt like failure. \u00a0But it was at this time, when I was achieving absolutely nothing, that He showed me He loved me. \u00a0He loved me. \u00a0Not, He loved me when I ___________. \u00a0 He loved me right where I was whether I did anything or not (1John 4:19). It took me three years to get it. \u00a0Three years to stop fretting over what I was unable to do. \u00a0Three years to learn how to let His love come in.<\/span><\/p>\n

    I have met with many people who seek love by pleasing others. \u00a0When they finally come to see me they are hurt and frustrated with all the takers in their lives. \u00a0Their attempts to secure the love they wanted back fired and left them in relationships with people who turn to them to get, not to give. \u00a0Others pursue harmonious relationships by avoiding conflict, which simply ensures a large pile of unresolved conflicts and issues (Prov 29:25) and guarantees the absence of true harmony. \u00a0Some seek safety and security through a vigilance that is constantly on the lookout for danger. \u00a0This creates a habit of anxiety that robs them of any chance to live in peace (Isaiah 26:3).<\/span><\/p>\n

    Others prefer a dead heart. \u00a0They keep the deepest longings at bay with food, drink, entertainment and activity. \u00a0Stay busy and you won’t feel much at all. \u00a0But beware, if you cut off the connection to your own heart, you will wake up one day very lost and discontent. \u00a0Desires are a compass for the heart and without them we tend to stray from our destiny, purpose and ability to connect deeply with others.<\/span><\/p>\n

    There is only one route to the true fulfillment of our longings and desires: \u00a0a life surrendered to God (Matt 6:33). \u00a0This will be the focus of my final blog in this series.<\/span><\/p>\n

    NEXT TIME: DESIRE Part 4: \u00a0 A Pathway to God<\/span><\/p>\n

    One more thing: \u00a0I’m new to this blog writing and don’t seem to know when to let it go. \u00a0And, so, even after I post, I go back a few more times to tweak. \u00a0This means that for you who get an email informing you that I’ve posted a new blog, probably aren’t reading the best version. \u00a0If you hit the link in your email, the purple quilty square, and go to the website, you can read the best version currently available. \u00a0Who wouldn’t want that? \u00a0\u2665<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Inigo Montoya: (speaking with inebriated slur) \u00a0I am waiting for you, Vizzini. You told me to go back to the beginning. So I have. This is where I am, and this is where I\u2019ll stay. I will not be moved. \u00a0 Brute: But the Prince gave orders \u2014 Inigo: \u2014 So did Vizzini \u2014 when […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/deeperricherfuller.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/272"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/deeperricherfuller.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/deeperricherfuller.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/deeperricherfuller.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/deeperricherfuller.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=272"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/deeperricherfuller.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/272\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/deeperricherfuller.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=272"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/deeperricherfuller.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=272"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/deeperricherfuller.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=272"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}